“And
what would you do,” the Master said unto the multitude, “if God spoke directly
to your face and said, “I COMMAND THAT YOU BE HAPPY IN THE WORLD, AS LONG AS
YOU LIVE,’ what would you do then?”
And the
multitude was silent, not a voice, not a sound was heard upon the hillsides
across the valleys where they stood.”
--Richard Bach, Illusions
Have you ever noticed that a foul mood brings more
annoyances, irritations, and mistakes?
However, a happy mood usually brings good stuff.
Dr. Gabor Mate’ told of a time when he was an infant.
His mother called the Pediatrician and said that little Gabor was crying all
the time. The Pediatrician said that all the babies were crying. They are
picking up the anxiety from their mothers. The Gabor's lived in Poland, and
Germany was about to invade it.
That's the way I have been feeling for the past month.
I wrote a blog yesterday about what was on my mind,
then lost what I had written. Was that a lesson regarding my foul mood?
Was that the universe telling me to either shut up or
up my foul mood into a tinier fowl?
Once I fed some tiny quails for our landlord in
California. Have you ever seen their cute little spotted eggs?
Our landlord sold
the eggs to a Japanese restaurant, which considered them a delicacy. His little
gathering of quails—a bevy is an old-world term for them—was so tame they would
flow as a unit out of the enclosure, and I had to push them back in to close
the door. Later, he collected another group and housed them in a business
structure on the property. Those young quails were so wild I couldn't open the
cage to feed them without fear of losing one, and once I did.
The door to their cage was on top of a low container.
When I lifted the on-top-of-the-cage door, an ace pilot quail flew out faster
than a speeding bullet, aimed for the door to the great outdoors, and was never
seen nor heard from again.
I never told the landlord.
What lesson is there in that story? I don't know—watch
which door you open, I suppose.
Yesterday I closed a door on my Real Estate ability to
sell. I'm keeping my license current, for I worked my butt off to get it.
However, I am dropping my associations. Fees are due and paying a
considerable sum of money for something I don't want to do seemed ridiculous. I
was following up on leads that my principal broker was buying and giving to me
to call.
How do you feel about cold calls?
“Ok? Don’t bother me? I won’t answer. GO AWAY.”
Luckily nobody got really angry with me.
I could call ours “lukewarm” for the person I called
had filled out a form. I know they wanted information, probably not a call, but
then I was playing the game.
No more.
I resent getting calls to sell me something. I figure
most other people do too, and I don’t like to bug people. At least here you can
read or not read, it’s your choice. Lead gathering headlines were something
like this: “Downpayment Assistance, Cash Deal.”
Really? I was a Real Estate agent. Everybody knows
that a Real Estate Agent can make a living only by commissions, which many
people resent or try to lower. Calling irked me. My procrastination irked my boss.
I felt like a quitter.
But I quit anyway.
That means I cannot list a house for sale, help an
owner sell, or help a buyer buy. Agents must belong to the RMLS and Realtor ®,
for we are required to use their forms.
My time and efforts belong to what I am passionate
about.
And that is writing.
I could continue the Newsletter concept I began when I
created our website for Vibrance Real Estate LLC. Our mascot/logo was a Pink
Flamingo—thus I titled the Newsletter A Flamboyance—which is a
gathering of flamingos. (Those exuberant vocal, chattering birds are sometimes
called the long-stemmed rose of birds.) It's odd that occasionally, we see that
tropical bird, not indigenous to the Pacific Northwest, perched in someone’s
yard.
People do want information. That’s the reason they
signed a form to get it. Now if I could get them to sign up for a Newsletter I
could do what I like to do and still be in the Real Estate business. I could tell people about FHA loans, (low
down payment, government-insured) or VA loans (no down payment). There are other
loans like a bridge loan that will loan you money so you can bridge the gap
between the time you sell your house and the time you purchase your dream home.
(Once you find a house you love you don’t want to lose it before you can sell
yours.) The Real Estate Association recently required a buyer to sign a buyer’s
agency, so read carefully.
My daughter and I could give tips. Want a
brainstorming session to make that oblong room look more inviting? Daughter
dear and I once flipped a house where we touched about everything except the
roof. We did siding, flooring, tiling, painting, carpentry and installing.
A sledgehammer with my daughter’s muscle behind it bashed out a wall,
opening the living room to the kitchen. We found a beautiful piece of Tiger
wood” that made a bar to separate the two rooms. Daughter’s mantel over the
kitchen range sold the house. (A single lady—first time buyer bought it, and we
helped her find downpayment help.) That was a thrill. We were not real estate
agents at the time, but we still made a profit
I learned to use a table saw and make mitered corners.
The worst of the flip was installing a garbage disposal. Well, hanging kitchen
cupboards was no piece of cake. But we were proud of our accomplishment and
loved the design aspect. Maybe that's what we can do. Have people send us
pictures, and we will critique the house and offer ideas. Sometimes a little
runt of a house can transform into a jewel.
When everybody wins business is simply more fun. (Aka,
the Pink Flamingo.)
I General Contracted the building of our log house. That
went from getting a forest Land Use permit, to building a road (hiring
contractors) to the finished product—with a little help from another general
contractor who took me under his wing, including taking me to the county to get
a septic drain system permit.
(You know what a “French drain is? Ask me. You know
about rock dust, and road fabric? Ask me.)
One of the fun things about writing is it clears the
mind and sweeps the house so the muse can enter without soiling her gown.
Richard Bach, the author I quoted at the top of this
blog wrote Jonathan Living Seagull.
“A nice little book,” said Ray Bradbury. “It will probably sell about 15,000
copies.” Jonathan was first
published in 1970 with little advertising or expectations, by the end of 1972,
over a million copies were in print. The book reached the number-one spot on
bestseller lists mainly through word-of-mouth recommendations. It is about
a seagull trying
to learn about flying, personal reflection, freedom, and self-realization.
Bach's following book, Illusions, is
my favorite book of Bach’s. Released in 1977, Illusions sold
15 million copies in 35 languages.
'What if somebody came along who could
teach me how my world works and how to control it? ... What if a Siddhartha came
to our time with power over the illusions of the world because he knew the
reality behind them? And what if I could meet him in person, if he was flying a
biplane, for instance, and landed in the same meadow with me?"
I'm going to reread Illusions.
"Don't ask what the world needs. Ask
what makes you come alive and go do that, because what the world needs is more
people who have come alive."
--Howard Thurman